Falling in love with an Escort? 3 good reasons not to.

Shy, naive, introverted, insecure or simply inexperienced, some men look for love in the wrong place ... It is very difficult for them to approach a girl in the street, dating sites do not seem to work anymore. After having suffered so much rejection, they turn to escorts because they think that sex workers are more tolerant, have little requirements, fewer expectations towards a man and are “easy” girls since they sleep with all men, whether they are handsome, ugly, rich, poor, smart or stupid. Influenced by the pejorative image conveyed by the media, these men also think that “these girls are selling their bodies for money and therefore have no men in their life because no one wants to have a prostitute as a girlfriend”. So, they try to approach this category of girls that “nobody seems to want” because they believe that their chances of being rejected are slimer ...

This blog has already addressed this topic from two different angles, presenting the perspective of a man on one hand and that of a woman on the other. This article is somewhat different, certainly less emotional, and a bit more predetermined. It is intended to complement the other two, in case any doubt on this issue still remains among some of our readers.

Sex work can be a choice

Indeed, all is not rosy in the sex industry, and it's true that a significant majority of women did not choose this line of work. However, you might be surprised to learn that more and more women are choosing this profession willingly. They embrace this choice as a liberating path, as a way to take control of their financial and social independence. This may seem hard to believe, but it's a reality. A clear truth, well-documented in scientific research, but one that no one (neither the media, nor politicians, nor feminist movements) wants to discuss openly, and which everyone prefers to deny or denigrate. By constantly treating them as if they did not exist and never giving them a voice (in the media, only women who are coerced in this industry are interviewed), these women who have deliberately chosen to sell their charms for money become invisible to us, non-existent.

The best escorts have options

Escorts who have chosen to do this job are not all “poor girls” who have no other career options. In this industry we see ladies who are more and more beautiful, sure of themselves, intelligent (many are graduates and have a higher level of education than the average of their clients), they often have a lot more money than their clients, speak multiple languages, are very sociable and open-minded, travel a lot and are extremely independent... Nothing to do with the negative portrayal too often broadcasted in the media. These ladies see sex work as an option, not a constraint.

An independent escort often has a lot more conversation and sex appeal than your wife / girlfriend. Because her profession has taught her to understand men and to know how a man "tick", many of these women are ahead of all other women because they comprehend men universe and its codes. These girls are selling their time and not their body. They are the fantasy of many men and the more beautiful and educated they are, the more men of high caliber will want to spend time with them, spoil them.

3 reasons not to fall in love with an escort

Actually, it is very easy to fall in love with an Escort ... and it happens a lot more often than you might think because the best of them are gems, with a highly developed emotional intelligence and an excellent understanding of how a man "operates". They don't have to look for love… it comes to them regularly, naturally… they can choose...and they are known to be pickier than most of women!

But is falling in love with an escort a wise thing? Here are my three golden rules to follow if you want to meet escorts and at the same time protect yourself emotionally:

1. Don’t become a regular with 1 escort only

The best is to see many sex workers. If you are the type of man who are into long appointments (dates of over 2 hours), avoid seeing a particular escort more than 5 times at most. Otherwise, some feelings for her could grow in you and soon, you won't be able to tell the difference between reality and fantasy and might fall in love and suffer greatly, especially when she doesn’t feel the same way towards you (which will likely happen).

2. Understand that it is a physical and psychological work

Being an escort is not only physical, but it also has enormous psychological effects on these women. You need to possess a different mindset to really understand these ladies. They’re moving into another world than the standard daily life routine most of us are familiar with. Most experienced independent escorts don't think like other women. Therefore, don’t expect them to behave like other women. They tend to be more challenging. Indeed, the independence they have gained through this work can be seen as a power they have that gives them a lot of control over the direction they want their lives to take. These strong personalities can be difficult for some men to deal with.

3. Accept that she probably won't stop working 

Related to the above, many escorts won't necessarily stop working even though she loves you, unless you can provide her financially with the money, she earns by getting paid for her time. Her whole life revolves around this activity, including friends and social life. Too many men expect that an escort will stop this work because they are in love. Some will probably quit because their boyfriend asked them too. But few of them will quit for good. Some will manage to stop temporarily but will go back to it if necessary. Others will do it behind your back, telling you lies (escorts are pretty good at this) you will probably believe in as you are so much deep in love. The truth is the vast majority will never be able to stop for good (because of the quick money sex work can bring them) ...unless of course, they meet a handsome, rich, friendly and generous man, like in the film “Pretty woman”. Rather unlikely, but it could happen.

Falling in love with an escort: Not always worth it

In my opinion, falling in love with an escort can for a man, lead to more pain than happiness, especially if that girl is known to be a “it girl”.

The best is to take the situation as it is and accept her job as an escort if you ever envision having a long-lasting relationship with her. When she decides it for herself, she will stop this work, but that wish must come from her, not from you. But on the other hand, I know few men who are comfortable with the idea of dating a woman who is simultaneously selling her charms to others...  It requires a great deal of trust, open-mindedness, altruism, and love for each other for such a relationship to strive.

Gentlemen, do not seek love in the wrong place. The role of an escort is mainly focused on helping you experience your fantasies in order to help you better stand /accept your daily reality.

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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