02 / 02 / 2026
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Dirty Talk: The exciting power of naughty words…

 

Since I’ve been evolving in this industry, I have never met a single independent escort who didn't engage in dirty talk. It's a service that is so in demand by escorts’ clients that it's impossible for a sex worker—even a beginner—not to know what dirty talk is all about. Clients are well aware of this. Not all of them are crazy about it and many are very happy with “vanilla sex”, some would love to be able to let loose with an escort (because it's not possible with their partner) but don't always dare to talking dirty to her, while for others, it's a form of release, a prerequisite for their sexual pleasure. In this short article, let's find out why sex loves dirty talk so much.

 

What is dirty talk?

Let’s not beat around the bush and give a straight answer to this straightforward question.

Dirty talk refers to sexually explicit or suggestive language while having sex to create arousal, intimacy, or erotic tension. It’s about using words to stimulate desire. A man will for instance express his desire in explicit terms and his partner will go ahead by describing her sexual thoughts or fantasies. Both partners are giving and/or receiving verbal cues about pleasure. Using dirty talk transforms their sex time into a playful, provocative moment where the language and terms usually considered taboo are celebrated to enhance their sexual connection.

Dirty talk can be for some subtle and suggestive while for others, it must be very explicit to have them climax. A lot of men enjoy dirty talk but don’t get me wrong: women too! Actually, I will dive a bit deeper in that topic later in this article, explaining why some women for instance enjoy being insulted during sex.  But for now, remember that dirty talk is all about verbal seduction made explicit to heighten intimacy and arousal between people who want that kind of sexual exchange.

 

Why men are excited by dirty talk?

Good question which for me, isn’t that difficult to answer. Most men love dirty talk because it turns their desire into something explicit and undeniable. Dirty talk removes ambiguity and that validation boosts confidence and intensifies arousal. Any experienced escort will tell you that for many men, being verbally desired is as powerful as physical touch. Through dirty talk, men have their imagination stimulated, which is for them a major driver of sexual excitement. Because dirty talk is something that is not meant for public ears, that sense of secrecy and closeness heightens emotional connection and makes the moment feel special and charged.

Dirty talk is popular among escort’s clients because it lowers their inhibition. As they usually know that with an escort, they can speak freely, they feel more comfortable to let go, relax control and lean into arousal. And of course, let's not forget that for some men, dirty talk taps into power dynamics where these verbal cues can intensify feelings of control, vulnerability, or excitement.

But not only men experience these kinds of feelings through dirty talk, some women as well find it very pleasurable…

 

Vulgarism and obscenity during sex: Why some women love it?

OK. Before kicking off, let me put a small disclaimer here: Not all women like dirty talk. Many hate it. Some like it clean but naughty at the same time, other really get turned on by a man who talks dirty to them. This chapter is intended to the last two categories of women mentioned.

Did you know that many women love insults or dirty talk in bed? Some even need to hear them loud and clear in order to climax. Some women find verbal insults arousing not because they want to be disrespected, but because of what those words symbolize and activate psychologically within a consensual, controlled sexual context.

Indeed, for many women, insults or naughty words during sex are part of a power-play dynamic. The dirty talk creates a temporary role reversal or exaggeration of dominance and submission. In this context, the insult isn’t taken literally—it’s a signal of intensity and control within a safe space. The arousal comes from choosing to give up control, not from being demeaned. Hearing words that would be unacceptable outside the bedroom do precisely heighten their excitement.

In some cases, dirty talk is even eroticized by some women (especially when the guy knows how to beautifully dirty talk with confidence but without being a jerk), not because of low self-esteem, but because it externalizes shame in a controlled way, allows them to explore vulnerability while transforming something emotionally charged into pleasure.

 

Dirty Talk: Why we shouldn’t be ashamed of it

Dirty talk can strip away social niceties and signal raw, unfiltered desire. In that context, being “used,” “wanted,” or “taken” verbally—even through harsh words—can feel like undeniable proof of desirability.

Do you feel like letting it go? Then do it, there is nothing wrong about that. And if it has to be with an escort, just tell her about that fantasy you have and invite her to be part so she will in that dirty talk role-play that will upgrade your whole sexual experience.

Words are powerful. During sex, dirty talk can momentarily reshape how you feel about themselves—smaller, exposed, or overpowered. For some men and women, that temporary shift creates a psychological release from responsibility, self-control, or expectation. But those who enjoy dirty talk know how it feels afterwards: your original identity returns—often with a sense of relief, well-being and liberation…

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

 

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