A few facts about Anal

Anal is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of heterosexuals, gay and bisexual men and women have already experienced sodomy. In a survey (conducted 10 years ago) of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47% of men and 61% of women admitted to having tried and enjoyed sodomy. Yet anal taboo inhibits most girls to talk about and learn the sexual use of the anus.

Let’s discover a few points that most men and women still ignore about the practice of anal.

1. Anal penetration is the least practiced form of anal sex

There are several ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching, anal opening while masturbating or stimulating your partner's anus during sexual intercourse or oral sex.

Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or the one of their partners - inserted into their anal orifice and gently turned. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo, a vibrator or an anal plug. Many men (including heterosexual men) prefer those forms of penetration.

Making oral-anal sex is popularly known as rimming or rimjob. The idea disgusts some people while others simply love it!

2. Anal stimulation - including during sexual intercourse-, should not be painful if done correctly

The belief that anal stimulation, especially during anal penetration, will systematically hurt is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body does not necessarily indicates that something is wrong, it also holds true for the anal area.

With its high concentration of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when abused, that’s true. However, anal can be a source of great pleasure for both men and women if practiced properly.

When a finger, a sex-toy or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles will produce spasms, as if it was fighting against an invasion. Pain will appear if the partners do not wait for the anal muscles to relax.

With gentleness and sufficient practice, the pain disappears. Maximum anal pleasure is gained when both partners are relaxed and confident with each other.

Perhaps if your partner seems stressed at the thought of experiencing her/his first sodomy, you should be patient and transform this "no" into a “yes” when she/he is ready to go ahead with you and give you both this unforgettable gift. You should therefore prepare your partner with a subtle combination of physical relaxation techniques, such as a sensual massage with essential oils of the back, buttocks, and upper thighs; then quietly start by introducing a finger to make her desire rise before penetrating.

Remember that sometimes the anal muscles will relax, often they won’t. Stimulation should only increase in proportion to the degree of receptivity.

It is rare to find a woman at ease with anal. That’s one of the reasons why, men who want to experience sodomy (actively or passively) will generally choose to live this fantasy with an escort.

3. Anal can be enjoyed by a woman even if she has consistently been uncomfortable in the past due to painful experiences with former partners

A strong desire alone does not necessarily guarantee anal pleasure. If your partner has a lack of interest or desire for anal, chronic anal tension is likely to occurs and the most cause discomfort and pain during sex.

This tension can be relieved by touching the anus and exploring regularly this part of her female anatomy to become more familiar and comfortable with it. An ideal time to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or a bath. Similarly, deep breathing also affects the anal muscles.

A woman with an a priori unfounded fear about her first anal sex may change her attitude towards it when allowing her partner to gently massage her anus without any anal sex being attempted in the first moments of intimacy. In this way, she can focus only on the pleasure that her erogenous zone is able to generate.

4. Anal stimulation provides many different types of pleasure

The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself.

A finger can touch them. When an object or a penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved in the anal act.

The outer part of the rectum, like the vagina, has also several nerve endings. The inner part essentially responds to pressure.

Some girls experience feelings of fullness and strong pleasure once they understand and feel that their first sodomy is not going to involve hazardous movements on the part of their partner.

Anal pleasure can be a physical but also a psychological thing. The taboo surrounding anal adds the excitement of the forbidden. The women most opposed to the practice of sodomy (because it’s painful and it's dirty!) rather see it as a source of sordid excitement. Others consider the anus as a secret and special place to share with a partner as an act of openness and self-giving.

5. Anal stimulation and orgasm

A minority of men and women respond to anal sex without direct genital stimulation.

Women do it by additionally contracting the pelvic muscles; and a small minority feels pure excitement through the anal route. When men experience orgasm through anal stimulation, they tend to focus on the prostate. Some of them react positively to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb.

Multiple orgasms by anal stimulation are more likely to occur when the person becomes completely absorbed in their sensations and fantasies.

Because it’s unlikely to be the end result, one should not try to procure an orgasm at all costs during sodomy, this would only increase stress and put pressure on your girlfriend/boyfriend, thus disrupting the pleasure; you must remain Zen-like and tell yourself that this is only one of the first anal experiences and that there will be others more satisfying ,for sure. And don’t forget that most girls need direct genital stimulation in order to have successful anal pleasure.

6. Anal is not necessarily an act of domination and/or submission

For many men, having toned and powerful forearms is a definite advantage in seduction.

On the other hand, when it comes to inserting a finger into his partner's anus, it's more a question of tact, know-how and consent.

Indeed, the more patient, assured and accomplice you will go about anal, the more likely he/she will take pleasure to have sex with you this way…

Janet - The Velvet Rooms 

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