09 / 11 / 2025
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Are you a Sex Worker offering massages? Here is why you should master the handjob.

 

More and more sex workers are offering intimate moments without penetration. But did you know that many men want to be able to reach orgasm without necessarily having sex with a stranger? They are particularly fond of the handjob, especially at the end of an erotic massage (also known as Happy Ending) and would love it if more independent escorts and erotic masseuses knew how to do them...

 

What is a handjob?

A handjob is a slang term for a sexual act in which you, as an escort or an erotic masseuse, stimulate your client’s penis using your hand. It is a form of manual sex, meaning no penetration or intercourse is involved. Of course, this practice can also occur in solo, meaning that your client will use his hand to give himself pleasure. It is also known as masturbating.  

 

Why do men love getting a handjob ?

Most men like to have handjob as a stimulation integrated into sexual encounters as a form of foreplay, post-play, or solo/mutual exploration. For many, it's also seen as a more accessible way of expressing intimacy, especially for people who don’t want or can’t have penetrative sex. So, whether you are an erotic masseuse who does not offer any sexual service or an escort for whom repeat customers are paramount, mastering the art of handjob is very important as it is one of these things such as blowjob, that most Sex Workers’ clients particularly request and appreciate.  And when as a sex worker, you are extremely good at one specific thing, clients will always come back to you.

Although a handjob is usually less emotionally intense than other sexual acts (both for men and women), a well-done handjob can provide your clients intense, focused sensation. For some men, receiving a handjob can feel relaxing, nurturing, or even emotionally validating, especially when combined with sensual touch. An if you have very sensual touches, remember that receiving a handjob can also for many of your clients, feel emotionally validating.

 

Why performing a good handjob is so difficult?

People often think that giving a handjob is easy. However, it often requires rhythm, technique, endurance (repetitive motion for several minutes - especially if the client takes longer to reach orgasm), and sometimes a little strength in the hand and arm from the giver. That's why many girls are unable to make their partner ejaculate this way, and often he “finishes the job” himself because he knows better his body and his erogenous zones.

Indeed, not all men like the same kind of touch. Some prefer light strokes, others firm; some like consistent rhythm, others variety. Moreover, it can be hard for an escort/erotic masseuse to know what feels best without direct feedback — especially if your client is shy, uncertain or quiet. Finally, using too much or too little pressure while performing an handjob, or not adjusting to the client’s responses, can make the experience uncomfortable for both of you.

 

Sex workers: How do you master a proper handjob?

Those of you who know what you're doing won't learn anything new in this chapter. However, these few tips might help the ladies out there for whom giving a handjob is sometimes a challenge.

First of all, I don't recommend trying to replicate what you see in porn movies. Some girls base their handjob technique on what they've seen in porn, which may not reflect real preferences. Never forget that what looks “hot” on screen may not feel good in real life or may not be what your client is looking for — especially if it's too rough, fast, or exaggerated. 

Next, I recommend using lubricant. It is one of the most common mistakes that sex workers make: not using lubricant while giving a handjob, thinking that it will work without it or that a little saliva will suffice. Well, it usually doesn't work that well. Not using lubrication while performing a handjob can cause friction, discomfort, or even chafing both to you and your client. Without natural or added moisture, the sensation may be more irritating than pleasurable. So, make sure to always have some lubricant nearby. And please, choose a silicone-based lubricant rather than a water-based one. The former is a little more expensive than the latter, but it's well worth it. Water-based lubricant is lightweight, non-greasy, and easy to clean with water, but has the disadvantage of drying out quickly. You really don't want to be reapplying it every minute while performing your handjob. While silicone-based lubricant feels very smooth and slippery, it is thicker, silkier, and very long-lasting. This will help you enormously in giving your client a good handjob.

My final piece of advice is to alternate between handjob and blowjob, while maintaining a steady rhythm. Alternating between the two will add dynamism to the act and increase your client's arousal, who will also have the privilege of watching you during this action (do not forget to keep an eye contact with him while you’re performing). Done properly, most of your clients will climax pretty fast. ;-).

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

 

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