Asexual : what is it exactly?

Did you know that 1% of the world's population is asexual?

Asexuality is the lack of interest in sex. An asexual person is someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction toward others, regardless of gender.

According to AVEN, the Asexual Visibility & Education Network (this community provides education, advocacy, and connection for asexual people) no less than 86% of asexual are young people under the age of 30. Women would be much more represented than men since 57% of the asexual would-be women, 12% men, the remaining 31% not registering in the male-female binarity.

The asexual community has also its own flag (see picture above).

Given the high percentage of women being asexual, this may explain why so many wives/girlfriends aren’t fancy having sex with their partner/husband, leading them to turn to escorts.

Lack of sexual attraction

Asexual people do not feel a desire for sexual activity with others and tend to have a low libido. However, this does not necessarily mean they lack interest in romantic relationships or intimacy, as many asexual men and women still seek emotional and romantic connections, without the expectation of sex.

While asexual individuals typically do not experience sexual attraction, some may still engage in sexual activity for reasons like wanting to please a partner or curiosity. However, they do not experience the same sexual desire as people with other sexual orientations.

A sexual orientation like any other

Even if some specialists argue about it, asexuality is today recognized as a sexual orientation among others. Sexual preferences are indeed multiple and not just straight! You may be attracted to people of the opposite sex - this is called heterosexual orientation - or the same sex - it is a homosexual orientation.

However, you can also change your attractions and be attracted to men and women at some point in your life. One speaks of "fluid preference". Or be attracted to both sexes; this is "bisexuality". Or be seduced by a person regardless of gender; we then speak of "pansexuality". We can also refuse all categories and classifications, concerning identity or orientation; these are "queers". Finally, one may not feel the slightest sexual attraction: it is called "asexuality".

It is important to note that being an asexual person has nothing to do with celibacy or abstinence, which are choices to refrain from sexual activity, whereas asexuality is an inherent orientation.


What genetic origin?

How to understand the asexual orientation? Where does it come from? Studies on the subject estimate that the causes of asexuality are numerous and different from one individual to another, ranging from the emotional lack suffered during childhood to a fusional and romantic vision of love, passing by a very rigid education or a traumatic experience such as a lack of genital development.

Some activists emphasize a genetic origin and insist that being asexual is neither a choice nor a lack or the source of suffering. It is true that one should not mixed asexuality and abstinence. Sexuality is the absence of a desire to have sex with others, but that doesn't mean that you can't fall in love or be attracted to others. This attraction can be sentimental, intellectual, sensual, aesthetic ...

Asexual people claim they can be in love and want each other, but do not want to have sex. And because nothing is simple, they also state that erotic pleasure is possible since asexuality is the absence of sexual attraction for others, but not the absence of sexuality with oneself, which includes, among other things, masturbation...
 

Sexuality is often more complicated than it seems; don't you think? ;-)

Janet - The Velvet Rooms

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