25 / 11 / 2025
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Female condom: Should escorts consider using it?

 

As an escort, taking care of your health is just as important as ensuring your safety. We're all familiar with male condoms and always make sure to have some on hand, whether for incall or outcall appointments.

Recently, an escort whom I know asked me my opinion about using a female condom because she was considering trying it. I was a little surprised by her question and asked her if she planned to use them in addition to male condoms or as a substitute. She replied that she could use a female condom herself, so her clients wouldn't need to use condoms at all.

It was her response that prompted me to write this article, which I hope will provide a clear answer to all the sex workers who have at some point asked themselves the same question about the possible use of female condoms.

 

What is a female condom?

A female condom is a soft, flexible pouch that is inserted into the vagina before sex to prevent pregnancy and protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It is the internal equivalent of a male condom.

The female condom is a thin nitrile or polyurethane sheath, and it has one ring at each end (an inner ring that goes deep inside the vagina to keep it in place and an outer ring that stays outside the vaginal opening). Female condom is used as a barrier that prevents semen from entering the vagina. This contraception is not hormonal, must be used a single time only, and is available without a prescription.

 

Female condom vs diaphragm: What’s the difference?

To my surprise, many escorts don't know the difference between a diaphragm and a female condom. Let's shed some light on this difference. These two contraceptive methods are often confused, even though they work, offer protection, and are used differently.

While the female condom resembles an internal version of the male condom, the diaphragm looks like a small silicone cup placed at the back of the vagina to cover the cervix. It must remain in place for a minimum of 6 hours after intercourse but no longer than 24 hours, then be washed and reused.

The fundamental difference between these two contraceptive methods is that the female condom prevents sperm from entering the vagina and protects against sexually transmitted infections. The diaphragm, on the other hand, is solely a method of preventing pregnancy and offers no protection against sexually transmitted infections unless consistently used with spermicidal gel.

For escorts, the use of the diaphragm is strongly discouraged (for obvious reasons), hence its limited use among sex workers.

 

What are the specificities of the female condom?

The women who already use the female condom know how thin and smooth it is. It is designed to line the inside of the vagina during sex and its two rings (inner and outer) help guide insertion and prevent the condom from slipping. The female condom contains no hormones, so it does not affect mood, libido, weight, or menstrual cycles. It is also one of the only contraceptive methods (with male condoms) to offer both types of protection, against pregnancy and STIs. Female condom works for most bodies without adjustment or pain. As I mentioned earlier, it must be thrown away after one sexual encounter; meaning that it should never be reused or washed.

Because the female condom can be placed up to six hours before sex, it allows more spontaneity compared to male condoms, which must be put on right before penetration. When it comes to how it feels, some users say it does feel more natural because the penis is not constricted. Others may notice the outer ring or pouch at first, but this discomfort usually decreases with practice. Another positive aspect of the female condom is that it protects a larger area around the vulva than male condoms and because it’s latex-free, it is safe for people with latex allergies.

The female condom seems to have quite a few advantages. But then why is it much less widespread and less popular than the male condom?

 

Why nobody uses the female condom?

Although studies suggest that the female condom provides a level of protection from sexually

transmitted diseases (including HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, hepatitis, cytomegalovirus, and herpes) that is at least equal to that of the male condom, it only account for a mere 0·2% of total condom supply and is still not readily accessible in most countries.

Why is it so?

First of all, male condoms are universally known and promoted as opposed to female condoms which are often not mentioned in sex education, rarely advertised and rather seen as a “niche” option. Most people simply never hear about them.

Another very important point is that a female condom is way more expensive per unit than a male condom. The fact that some pharmacies don’t have them on stock, shows that female condoms are not provided as freely as male condoms.

Some women may find the internal condom confusing because it is larger and needs to be inserted properly into the vagina beforehand. This extra preparation, learning, and these additional steps to follow before sexual intercourse may seem unusual to many women, and we all know that what is unusual to us often seems – wrongly- “too complicated”.

The lack of familiarity with the female condom does also create some stigma around it. Indeed, often, what’s less common is perceived by people as being less effective (false — female condom is effective when used correctly).

The mixed reactions to the sensation of using a female condom could be another explanation why it is not popular. Some people report loving it (more natural movement, wider coverage, less tightness than male condoms), but others can’t stand its noise (“rustling” sensation) or are bothered because they feel the outer ring.

It’s pretty clear that over the past decades, way more marketing and support has been invested in promoting male condoms (more funding, universal distribution, mass campaigns, broad cultural acceptance…). Female condoms on the other hand have benefitted from the same push; hence they still remain in the background.

 

Escorts: Should you try the female condom?

So, female condom or male condom? What's certain is that you should never use both at the same time because the friction can tear them.

As for the rest, well, I'd say it's a very personal opinion. The information shared in this article does, however, allow for an objective discussion on the matter. Is the use of the female condom really suitable for the profession of sex worker? Personally, I don't think so. For an escort, this method of contraception is too restrictive (too much preparation time beforehand, it must be inserted correctly to ensure it works properly), not very flexible (it can be visually and tactilely uncomfortable for the client and put them off during certain practices like the 69 position, for example – which may prevent him from visiting the girl again), and too expensive (it costs, on average, twice as much as a male condom).

My position doesn't question the effectiveness of the female condom. However, I don’t see the added value in using it. I think that for an escort, the male condom—which is similarly effective—is simply much more practical. But of course, the best thing is to try it yourself and you'll know for sure! ;-)

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

 

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