Does your penis size matter?

This is the question that almost all men have asked themselves at least once in their life. Is my penis big / large / long enough?

Pornographic films reflect an image of female desire that is very far from reality. This portrayal gives men a false image of women's sexual expectations and creates pressure in them that shouldn't exist. That pressure has some of them becoming obsessed over the size of their penis which can lead to anxiety, which can negatively affect sexual performance and intimacy. On top of that, being preoccupied with physical insecurities often undermines the natural flow of connection as a couple.

What penis size do women prefer?

If there is a choice to be made, women will prefer a small penis to a big one. The ideal size? An average penis. Why? Because large penises tend to hurt, to create discomfort and apprehension during sex. It then becomes difficult for the woman to let go and take pleasure because the discomfort is constant. In addition, some sexual positions are unimaginable when the penis is too big. And if a woman does not have pleasure during the act or pretends to have it, the experience will not be pleasant, neither for her nor for her partner.

What does one mean by average penis?

While also affirming that individual differences are normal and widely accepted, research shows that an average erect penis is between 12 and 16cm long. Many studies highlight a gap between perceived and actual penis sizes, with many men underestimating their size and overestimating societal averages. As I mention earlier, this view can lead to unnecessary anxiety among men, despite being within the normal range.

For lovers of Blowjob, Deep throat and Anal sex, again, your best bet is to have a small or a medium penis. An Escort for instance, will not necessarily tell you this, but if your penis is bigger than average, the pleasure can quickly turn into "toil". She may even resign herself to not offering you the service you've come to meet her for, because she'll consider your penis too big for what she's able to offer you. 

The vast majority of women will tell you that the best sex of their life was with men who had an average penis or slightly above average ("big but not too big", as women say).

Moreover, the vast majority of us report achieving orgasm primarily through clitoral stimulation rather than penetration. The size of a penis is then irrelevant in providing external stimulation, which is key for most women’s sexual satisfaction.

The size of your penis doesn’t really matter!

So men, be confident and stop worrying about your penis. 50% of you find it too small, which is actually not the case. Confidence, communication, and mutual respect often override concerns about physical attributes. If as a man, you are self-assured and attentive this will be perceived by a woman as more attractive, regardless of size of your penis.

And remember this: "It's more about the motion of the ocean than the size of the ship!" ;-)

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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