What is a Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby date?
Sugar daddy and Sugar baby are two terms used to define a relationship in which a man with a large financial capital offers money and / or goods to a woman much younger than him. That woman is called a Sugar baby, and in return for all the benefits (financial but also in a form of gifts, travels…) that her sponsor, the Sugar daddy guarantees her, she provides him with affection, attention, companionship and of course, sex.
In many countries, prostitution is a crime (but not in Switzerland, where it is legal and regulated). An affair between a Sugar daddy and a Sugar baby is a form of consensual dating is a mean of decriminalizing in a very subtle way the paid encounter, in other words, the sex against money relationship.
This new form of consensual relationship quickly found its audience, and that is when specialized online dating sites have been emerged. They sought to put in contact an affluent public (the offer, hence the Sugar daddy), with a young and educated public, (the demand, hence the Sugar baby), to frame their tariffed relationship while ensuring that it is "decriminalized". In fact, a Sugar daddy (a kind of "Sweet daddy") seems to meet all the codes of prostitution: he indeed offers himself the company of a young woman whom he pays for the time and services she dedicates for him.
The typical profile of a Sugar baby
The Sugar baby is not at a dead end, she is not presented as a victim. To be of an interest for a potential Sugar daddy, that lady should usually be between 18 and 30 years old, a student or she has just entered the workforce. She usually chooses, at a precise moment in her life, to give her time, and more if affinities, to a man who will soften her daily life from a financial point of view or allow her to carry out a project by being her sponsor. The target audience is obviously the student community, which is full of young women in the prime of their lives and full of potential/dreams and aspirations but whose finances are often problematic/limited.
These girls would also love to be able to spoil themselves from time to time but cannot really afford it. They will therefore choose to entertain a mature man rather than working in a supermarket, in a shop, in a restaurant, or at McDonald's.
The potential Sugar baby is aware of her sex appeal and her intellectual skills and seeks to profit from it: instead of financing her studies/student life by working evenings and weekends for a low pay salary, she supplements her end of the month by accompanying a wealthy man to a restaurant and letting him shower her with gifts and take her on vacation. Some of these girls seek only to combine studies and luxury, others see it as a purely alimentary job, which pays the evening meal and possibly the rent. If the lady has just gotten her first job after graduating, being a Sugar baby will simply be a convenient side hustle that will add to her meager income.
The typical profile of a Sugar Daddy
A Sugar daddy is a man of power. He has a wealthy situation, an interesting network of contacts, a great job and the financial capital that is almost mandatory to become a Sugar daddy. That man is generally at least 45 years old with a good experience of life, he is financially secured and generous. And that is what attracts young Sugar baby: A successful mature man who is willing to support a young woman so that he does not waste time in relationships (lack of time and/or interest) that will lead him nowhere.
For the Sugar daddy, spending time with pretty girls is getting the respect and admiration he deserves from young women who want to learn things in life and be treated like someone important. The Sugar daddy suddenly feels ten years younger and with a boost of confidence having an attractive Sugar baby by his side.
The Sugar daddy is financially comfortable (although not all of them are rich, as you might think) and established men who sometimes already have wives and children, but whose hectic pace of life has extinguished the flame in their marriage. They may also be home rarely (because of their business life) and therefore, need company when during their trips abroad. Regardless, their wives and families will always come first. The Sugar baby is for him fun, freedom, a way to boost his ego, a convenience but usually, the Sugar daddy is not looking for a life partner (at least, not at the premise of the encounter). The Sugar Baby understands that she will not replace his wife and children but likes to be spoiled and shares her time in exchange for some material comfort. Both parties therefore are getting what they are looking for, that leads to a win-to-win situation.
Date between a Sugar daddy and a Sugar baby: A consent relationship
An affair between a Sugar daddy and a Sugar baby can last a few months or several years. The goal of this relationship is a mutual exchange between two people and as in any type of couple relationship: everyone finds their happiness somehow. Obviously, the Sugar daddy and Sugar baby connection is a mutual agreement: the relationship does not go without the consent of the other half. This aspect of the arrangement must be taken into account, which is very often not well understood by people having prejudices against this form of relationship.
Are Sugar Babies offering a modern form of prostitution?
In my opinion, being a Sugar Baby is not really dating. One is only engaged in the relationship for the financial reward, and it is not a conventional encounter. Almost all Sugar daddy/Sugar baby relationships involve sex. Therefore, the line between being a Sugar baby and being an Escort Girl is very thin. The Sugar baby just plays the long game with fewer clients…Sugar Babies are swapping their time and presence, and quite likely sexual services for money.
A Sugar daddy often expect from his Sugar baby a level of time and attention a professional Escort Girl would charge hundreds Swiss Francs for. He might be a foot fetish, for instance, and want a lady to turn up to his house once a week so he can play with her feet for two to three hours, and he will give her 100 CHF. You might think that 100 CHF to have someone touch your feet isn’t that bad, but actually, “it’s worth a hell of a lot more than that!” A professional Escort Girl offering Outcalls charges anywhere from 300 CHF to 450 CHF an hour for this kind of service.
The stigma around prostitution means that people distance themselves from the term - even when they are doing things that fall under its remit. Men do not want to be seen as ‘that guy’ who needs to pay for sex, and women do not want to think of themselves as sex workers.
Whether some people like it or not, it is obvious to me that this is a modern form of sex work. I don’t think there really is a difference, even though a Sugar baby and a Sugar daddy rarely directly exchanged cash for a specific sexual act. Usually, she receives an allowance every month (agreed in advance by both parties), as well as gifts and/or trips and/or payment of her fixed bills for example. During this relationship with her Sugar daddy, the Sugar baby behaves towards the Sugar daddy like if she was his girlfriend.
A Sugar baby need to feel empowered to talk about money, which she rarely does upfront. If the Sugar daddy does not mention anything about an agreement or compensating the Sugar baby for her time, she has to be able to show enough confidence to bring that up or she will end-up spending time with him and getting nothing in return.
Considering becoming an Escort Girl or a Sugar Baby?
Becoming a Sugar baby is popular among young girls, especially in countries where prostitution is illegal. It is also for many of women (who are often uncomfortable with the word "prostitution") a disguised way of exchanging money / gifts for sexual services.
The girl who does not assume or who is afraid to work as an Escort will prefer to look for a Sugar daddy. According to her, this alternative will be more discreet, and she could even have two Sugar daddies simultaneously. Depending on the nature of their engagement, a girl who sees her Sugar daddy once or twice a week for a few hours or half-days can expect an allowance of between 1000 and 5000 CHF per month (some even get more than that). Very comfortable when you are a student or starting in life. Inexperienced and naive, these young girls often let themselves be intimidated by a bit of money and some Sugar daddies know how to take advantage of it ... Having sex is pretty much expected with a Sugar daddy. A lot of girls think the contrary but honestly, why would a guy just give you a lot of stuff for free, especially knowing that he has plenty of choice when it comes to getting a Sugar baby?
My Tips to Girls considering becoming a Sugar baby:
* Do not give out your real identity immediately to your Sugar daddy
* Always use a condom (especially at the very beginning of your encounter as you do not know if it will turn into a genuine and stable agreement) - do not let your Sugar daddy convinces you otherwise, no matter how much he offers you for that favor
* Never spend your own money when he takes you on trips, to a restaurant…
* If you know it will end up with sex, get a deposit upfront if you have not received from him your first allowance yet
* Do not get yourself into something you are uncomfortable doing, just because you want to please your Sugar daddy
* Make sure a person you trust knows where you are when you are out on a date with a potential Sugar daddy (or someone you have known recently)
The Escort Girl, unlike the Sugar baby, is a professional (although more and more professional Escorts are now turning to Sugar-Dating) and she is much less naive and has way more experience with men and transactional sex. An Escort Lady exchanges her time for money and her rates are fixed (in Switzerland, between CHF 250 CHF and 400 CHF per hour). She meets several clients in a day/in a week (depending on her availability) and her income is two to three times higher than that of a Sugar baby. Her rates are pretty clear upfront, and the client knows for sure that he will have sex. With an Escort, you may have that feeling that it is all about money…unless you find one who offers a real GFE service. In that case, you will never have the feeling of being on a transactional date.
I would say that the three biggest differences between an Escort and a Sugar Baby are:
* Time. A Sugar baby spends a lot more time outside the bedroom with her Sugar daddy. It looks a little bit like a regular dating, just with an allowance/gift as compensation. Escorts do go on non-sexual "dates" with clients, but those are less common and are always paid anyway!
* Payment. A Sugar baby may receive many gifts, or a weekly/monthly allowance. An escort is paid (on an hourly based) for her time and services which have a clear beginning and end.
* Balance of power. This last point differs enormously whether you are an Escort Girl or a Sugar baby. In fact, the Sugar daddy will generally have more decision-making power over the Sugar baby, as the bargaining power is heavily tilted in his favor (he has the choice, as on the sexual marketplace there are more Sugar babies looking for a Sugar daddy than Sugar daddies waiting for a Sugar Baby). On the other hand, the Independent Escort Girl is a professional who exercises direct control over her activity, the time she wishes to devote to it, she chooses her clients, her rates and where and how she wishes to practice her trade. When a customer wants to meet her, the balance of power is much more balanced, since it is the Escort Girl who determines the contours of the encounter, not the client. Moreover, there are fewer independent escorts on the market than clients looking to use their services.
The Sugar Baby: she needs a little financial help and prefers to meet a single/married man (or two maximum) and on a regular basis in order to continue her studies or her job as an employee in a company. The time she spends with her Sugar daddy is not counted. The allowance she gets is a simply financial compensation for the time spent with him (that can be illimited).
The Escort Girl: whether full-time or part-time, it is a job and it has to be lucrative. The Escort Girl offers her services in a professional way and more often than not, within a more structured and rigid framework. The time she spends with her client is counted/limited. The compensation she obtains is an income.
Because prostitution can be described as the “exchange of money for sex” (Oxford reference, 2024), the two alternatives listed above, both represent distinctives forms of prostitution.
Gentlemen, should you date an Escort Girl or a Sugar Baby?
As a man, is it better to meet an Independent Escort Girl or to have a Sugar Baby? Tricky question which I think depends on the type of relationship you are looking for.
If I were a man wanting to become a Sugar daddy, I would meet a Sugar baby in this case:
I want a continued relationship with one woman only, spend a lot of time with her (seeing her once to three times a week) and I want to invest a limited budget into this. I want a girl who is available on my own terms. I am looking for a relationship that could turn into a real romantic relationship. The negative point: I could fall in love with my Sugar baby, and it may not be reciprocal or vice versa, or could lead to complication if I am married. At some point, she might want more money / gifts than I can offer. The Sugar baby might want to see me more often (or less often) than agreed. She could have another Sugar daddy while I would like an exclusive relationship. My proximity to her could endanger my relationship with my wife or current partner if I do not know/want to establish the necessary distance between us.
If I were a man looking for paid intimate and sexual encounters, I would meet an Escort Girl in this case:
I want to have intimate and sexual relations without any drama, no commitment, without wasting time or money and while maintaining a certain anonymity; even if it costs me more than dating a Sugar baby. I will definitely see different Escorts in order to avoid getting emotionally involved and to stay away from being responsible for the financial well-being of another adult. I do not necessarily want to expose myself in public with another woman (especially if I have a family). If I have particular fantasies and I know that I can satisfy them with the right Escort (who is a professional provider), not necessarily with a Sugar baby who may not be comfortable with my request and/or meet my expectations in terms of sex. The Sugar baby may not always be available when I need her to, whereas an Escort is just a call away.
So, Gentlemen? Would you rather go for a Sugar Baby or an Escort Girl? And you ladies who are reading this article, would you rather be a Sugar baby or become an Escort Girl?
Janet - The Velvet Rooms
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