20 / 08 / 2024
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Kink : What is a Kinky escort?

 

Kinky. I am pretty sure you have heard that word before. If not, that is the topic I am going to explore in this article, helping you to better understand what a kink is and what does it mean when an escort girl introduces herself as being kinky.

 

What is a kink?

Did you know that in English, the word “kink” refers to a twist or loop in a thread, rope or hair, and has its origins in the Dutch word “kink”, meaning a twist in a rope?

The meaning of “kinky” then slowly shifted to mean something “bizarre” or “eccentric” and eventually began to be associated with sexual behavior, describing practices considered unconventional or non-normative.

A kink is a sexual fantasy, preference, or behavior that someone enjoys, often considered outside mainstream sexual activities.

A kink cannot be dissociated from fantasies and fetishes as it belongs to these categories. When someone as a fetish (sexual fixation on an object, body part, or scenario), this kink is necessary for that individual to achieve sexual arousal or enjoyment. That kink is usually deeply ingrained and often form a central part of a person's sexual identity.

However, there is a slight difference between a kink and a fetish. The fetish is characterized by its specificity and intensity and requires the presence or involvement of the fetishized element for sexual arousal, unlike the kink, which is aimed more at enhancing sexual experiences.

A kink enhances sexual experiences but is not essential for sexual satisfaction. In other words, it adds variety in the sexual experience and can be explored flexibly without being a necessity for arousal.

However, remember that what is considered kinky can vary widely between individuals, cultures and society. This is why the term “kinky” must be understood in its most subjective sense as a kink can change over time or with different partners and/or context.

 

What is a kinky escort?

Kinky escorts are individuals who take pleasure in engaging in sexual practices that fall outside conventional norms and can include a wide variety of activities such as bondage, impact play, role play, and more.

Kinky escort girls are known to be more open-minded than the average sex worker, as they are often willing to explore different sexual fantasies and desires, even if it is their first time trying that kink. This exploration can help build intimacy with their clients and enhance their sexual experiences.

 

What sexual activities can be considered as being kinky?

Kinky sexual behavior encompasses a wide range of activities that deviate from conventional sexual norms. Below are some of the most popular kinks, but the list is obviously not exhaustive.

Foot fetishism: This kink is probably one of the most popular in the sex industry and focuses on the feet as a source of sexual attraction, which can involve touching, chewing and skin groping.

 

BDSM: Bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism (BDSM). These kinks activities can range from partner bondage to power dynamics and consensual pain play.

Voyeurism and exhibitionism: The kink of voyeurism involves watching others engage in sexual activity, while exhibitionism involves being watched by others.

Humiliation play: Some people find sexual arousal in being humiliated or humiliating their partner. This kinky behavior may involve verbal degradation or role-playing.

Role-playing: Partners take on specific roles or characters to fulfill their kinks, such as doctor-patient or teacher-student scenarios.

Impact play: This kink involves spanking, slapping or the use of implements such as paddles or whips.

Erotic Asphyxiation: This kinky activity involves restricting air flow for sexual arousal.

Cuckolding: The kink of cuckolding (also known as candaulism) involves one partner watching the other engage in sexual activity with someone else, often with elements of power exchange and humiliation.

 

Kinky behaviors are diverse. Because all of them diverge by their deviation from traditional sexual practices, mutual consent and communication is a must before getting engage in any those kinky activities.

 

How to communicate your kink to an escort?

As many men, you have a kink that you have never allowed yourself exploring with your current partner/girlfriend? Why not asking an escort girl?

While all sex workers will not be open for fantasies and fetishes experiences, many will. Nevertheless, the way you will approach the topic will make all the difference. By approaching the conversation with openness, respect, and patience, you can effectively communicate your kinks to an escort, and it is not such a delicate process as it may seem.

Follow my few steps and tips to help you navigate this conversation effectively:

 

1-Check her profile

The first thing you want to do is to read her ad carefully and see if the escort mentions any boundaries or things she does not do at all. If she is not into providing any fantasies/fetishes, do not waste your time asking.

 

2-Think about it once more

Before discussing your kink with an escort, take time to understand it yourself. Know what you want to try and why it appeals to you. This will help you articulate your desires clearly to the escort girl.

 

3-Talk to her about it prior the encounter

Whether by phone, email or text message, communicate your kink with the escort of your choice before your meeting and not after or during. Please, avoid bringing it up during a sexual encounter to prevent pressure or discomfort. This time of physical and/or mental preparation is probably more important for her as it is for you.

 

4- Be reassuring

Reassure the escort that you respect their boundaries and that you are open to hearing their desires as well. Emphasize that you would never want them to do anything they are not comfortable with.

 

5- Use clear examples

Be specific about what your kinky fantasy involves so the escort girl can understand how it would work in practice. This clarity helps them make an informed decision about whether they want to engage in it or not.

 

6- Be open for questions and compromises

Encourage the kinky escort to ask questions and express their own fantasies. This can lead to discovering shared interests or finding ways to incorporate each other’s kinks in a way that is enjoyable for both of you.

 

7- Take it slow

In case the girl has little to no experience in kinky activities but is open to trying your kink, start with lighter or less intense activities and gradually explore deeper aspects as comfort levels increase. This approach helps prevent feelings of being overwhelmed.

 

8- Respect Their Decision

Be prepared for the possibility that the escort girl may not be interested in your kinks. If this happens, do not be offended and rather discuss alternative ways to satisfy your desires, as long as both parties are comfortable with this arrangement.

 

Communication: the key element to a successful kinky experience

Overall, being kinky is about exploring and enjoying sexual practices that deviate from the norm, with a strong emphasis on mutual consent, communication, and safety. Nobody – including escort girls – should be pressured to provide a service she does not feel comfortable with.

Therefore, as an escort client, one should make sure that clear communication and consent are the foundations of kinky activities, even with sex workers who have extensive experience as kinky escorts.

Both the client and the escort must discuss their boundaries, desires, and establish safe words to ensure themselves a pleasurable and safe experience.

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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