25 / 06 / 2026
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Escort clients: How to request for extra services?

 

This is a topic I've wanted to write about for a long time because it seems to me that it's a subject that will interest both escort clients and the independent escorts themselves. It's an important topic, and if it's not handled properly, it tends to lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and even disappointment. To help you avoid all of that, this article offers some practical advice on how, and especially when, to tell an escort that you (the client) are interested in extra services.

 

What is an extra?

An "extra" service is an additional service offered by an escort that is generally not part of her standard service. Depending on her basic service, this extra could be, for example, natural fellatio, come in mouth, anal sex, or even a fetish service... (the list is not exhaustive). There isn't really a set rule about what is considered an extra, as it's the escort who decides what she is willing to offer or not. Indeed, what is an extra with one escort might be included in the services of her colleague, or completely absent of another escort's list of services. Most professional escorts are very transparent about the additional services they offer, but this isn't the case for all sex workers. So, to avoid unpleasant surprises, I strongly advise all clients visiting escorts to always get clarification on the service offered if the escort's advertisement isn't sufficiently explicit on this point.

 

How much does an extra cost?

This is a very relevant question to which there is no single, definitive answer. The price of an extra will often depend on its nature (what type of service it is), its popularity (some services are more in demand than others), its rarity (some services are offered by very few escorts), its complexity (some services are more difficult to perform than others), and also the geographical area where you are located (prices for extra services vary from country to country). In Switzerland (where prostitution is legal and regulated), expect to pay on average between 50 and 100 CHF for an extra service offered by an independent escort.

 

How to request an extra?

My answer to this question is simple. If it's a common extra (like a facial/come on face), then the request can be made in writing (text message, WhatsApp) or during a brief phone call. However, if it's a less common extra, especially one that requires explanation or a scenario (like role-playing), then it's best to submit a written request. This gives the escort time to read and reread the request before accepting it (or not). As for you, it gives you the opportunity to clearly explain your request and communicate your fantasy to the escort so she can give her best to satisfy you.

 

When should you ask an escort for extra services?

The timing of your request is crucial. Too many men make the mistake of not mentioning to the escort they plan to meet that they would like to take advantage of one of the extras she offers. Very often, this request comes spontaneously, once they are already alone with the woman or, even worse, in the middle of sex. Gentlemen, your request for an extra service should always be made before your appointment with an escort. Ideally, you should mention it when confirming the meeting. This also allows you to reconfirm that this extra service is indeed part of what she offers. If you make your request too late, the escort may have to decline, even if she does offer this service. Why? Simply because many services require preparation before they can be offered. This is the case, for example, with anal sex (the woman must prepare her rectum beforehand for this experience) or the Golden Shower service (the woman must have drunk enough water before the encounter), a request for a particular outfit (latex clothing, lingerie of a specific color, high-heeled boots, etc.) which will require the escort to buy it if it's an item she doesn't already own; or the desire for an erotic massage before the intercourse (the woman will then need to ensure she has a sufficient quantity of massage oil available). Therefore, to avoid any misunderstandings or disappointment and to preserve the atmosphere of the encounter, always make sure to clearly state your request for extra services beforehand when contacting an escort for a date.

 

Extras offered by escorts: What to remember

Keep in mind that not all escorts offer extras. What applies to one may not apply to another. Therefore, there is no uniformity regarding these different types of services, which ones offer them, and which ones don't, and at what price. Similarly, some escorts may offer a higher average price that includes many services considered extras by other escorts. My advice is to carefully read their advertisement and, if in doubt, contact the escort of your choice to clarify what she offers. And remember to state your request beforehand: this will contribute to a smooth encounter.

Finally, I advise you to steer clear of escorts who present their services like a car with no included options: the basic model is so simple that it's unappealing as is, and you often have to buy numerous options (which will drastically increase your budget) to get a satisfactory final product. You'll excuse the somewhat simplistic comparison, but you get my point. Some sex workers will even go so far as to charge you for the time spent in the shower and then pressure you to leave... In my opinion, that's one of those things a client should never accept from an escort.

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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