01 / 08 / 2024
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The Fetish Man: What Makes Him So singular?

 

Why some people develop erotic desires for a specific object or part of a woman’s body? One does not really know why leave the exact causes of this phenomenon conclusively unestablished. In this article, we will define who the fetish person is and why for many, this aspect of their personality might be seen as peculiar.
 
Who are the fetishists?

The fetishist is known for having an irrational devotion to something or someone. The person has a fetish when he/she is extremely attracted (and excited) by a pair of leather boots, a vinyl raincoat, high heels, women’s foot, unwashed women underwear…

That sexual interest or fixation on specific objects or non-genital body parts (such as hair, breasts, or feet) is considered a deviation of sexual impulses.

How do you become a fetishist?

You don't become a fetishist because you decide to... but rather because something happened to you without you really knowing why or even how.

Becoming evident during puberty, a fetish may develop prior to that. More often than not, the teenage period is a common time for fetishism to emerge and almost always occurs in males. At a young age, there might have been an unconscious connection between that object/body part and an erotic stimulation, which has turn into a fetish. Later, when he grows up and experiences an erotic sensation, this object/body part will come back to him systematically and from now on, the two will go together. The stimulant (that object/part of body) will then become essential to the person to reach full orgasm. Without that stimulant, it will be challenging for them to function sexually.

For example, a man who remembers having erections when as a boy, his mother changed him on a leather mattress, may be stuck at this stage and forever associate this material (leather) with sex.

The seven most popular fetishes

Did you know that about a quarter of men experience fantasies that involve fetishistic arousal? And the most popular of them is by far the foot fetish.

Here are some classic fetishes that are generally considered to be the most common:

Foot Fetish 
A foot fetish is a sexual attraction to feet, which may include a fascination with toes, ankles, shoes, and socks. Individuals (it concerns almost exclusively men) with a foot fetish may find sexual arousal in various aspects of feet, such as their appearance, touch, or adornments like nail polish... Many men enjoy seeing women wearing shoes with very high heels because of the masochistic connotation: they want to be trampled by them. Some men like them to be worn, others are excited by the object itself.

 

Cuckolding Fetish (also known as Candaulism)

Cuckolding qualified a person (often a man) who gets turned on by their partner (usually a wife or girlfriend) having sex with another person (often a man). Cuckolding is known to be linked to elements of BDSM and its pleasure may come from feelings of humiliation, jealousy or the taboo nature of the act.

 

Voyeurism Fetish

Voyeurism is a fetish where a person derives sexual gratification by observing others in intimate situations, such as undressing or having sex, often without their knowledge or consent.

 

Exhibitionism Fetish

Exhibitionism is a sexual fetish where consensual people derive sexual arousal and gratification from exposing their bodies or engaging in sexual acts in public or semi-public settings. Among these fantasies are the desire to make love on the beach, in an office, in a stairwell or to have sex in the woods...

 

Manga Fetish

Because Manga exposes scenarios that are considered taboo or impossible in real life, it can cater to specific fetishes that are difficult or unsafe to explore in reality. The highly idealized and fantastical characters and settings make manga visually appealing, more intense and immersive.

 

Age-Play Fetish

Taking place between consenting adults of legal age, Age-play is a fetish in which the people involved act as if they are different ages (regressing to an infantile state, roleplaying as teens...) than they actually are (usually younger, than their actual age). Although complex and often misunderstood, Age-play fetish is a very popular fantasy men have and is one of the most requested Role-play when they contact an Escort Girl.

 

Body Fluids Fetish

As strange as it may seem, there are people who are sexually aroused by or fixated on various bodily fluids such as urine, saliva, blood, sweat, semen, breast milk, other fluids (when a woman squirt for instance) …

 

There are about a hundred fetishes and the seven listed above are therefore only a very small part of the fetishes that exist such as: Hair fetishism (this fetish affects both men and women), leather and Latex fetish (fans of these materials love boots, raincoats and aprons made of leather or latex), erotic asphyxia (this sexual act involves suffocation. Some men masturbate by depriving themselves of oxygen), the uniform (uniform fetishism is the fact that a man or woman needs to wear a uniform or make love to a partner in uniform to access sexual pleasure) …

 

Is fetishism something bad?

Fetishism, long considered a mental illness or even a perversion, suffers from a bad image. However, if it does not cause moral suffering or danger, fetishism can be practiced in the same way as any other erotic game.

As for some fetishists, they may not always assume their fetish because of the social stigma that can surround it. The fetishist can also perceive his/her fetish as something abnormal, thus fearing of being rejected by his/her partner for example. An internal conflict can then arise between their fetish and their personal values ​​or beliefs. Shame can also arise in some fetishists because their desire involves activities that are legally or ethically questionable or against their cultural and religious beliefs. Finally, a feeling of guilt can set in among some fetishists who may feel ashamed of their perceived lack of control over their sexual fetish.

But let's keep in mind that not all fetishists feel ashamed, and many have come to accept and embrace their sexual desires. Some people cannot consider their sexual activity without their fetish. Others, on the other hand, can imagine it as a fantasy and can access pleasure without needing this connection with their fetish.

 

Given the infinite number of fetishes available, everyone can be more or less fetishistic to spice up their sex life and stimulate their partner, provided that great importance is given to open communication.

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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