11 / 11 / 2024
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Submissive men: Why do some men like sexual submission?

 

The desire for sexual submission among some escorts’ clients is real. Not all men are dominant in bed. Some like to be dominated by a woman. In this article, we explore the reasons behind the submissive trend of the male gender.

 

Relief from responsibility and control

Strange as it may seem, many men of power, business leaders or even men in managerial positions in an organization enjoy sexual submission. For some, this desire has even turned into a need. 

Indeed, in many cases, men who take on significant responsibilities in their personal and professional lives may find submission as a release from their everyday pressures. Submitting in a sexual context allows them to temporarily relinquish control and the need to be in charge, which can be mentally and emotionally liberating.

The act of letting go of control can provide a sense of freedom, allowing them to explore vulnerability and the experience of being cared for or dominated by their partner. This dynamic may offer a break from societal expectations that men should always be assertive and dominant.

When their partner can't understand their need to feel sexually submissive to her, when he's unable to do so, or when the man is afraid to share this desire with his partner (fear of being judged, of being rejected by her, fear of jeopardizing the relationship), he'll seek to fulfill this need of submission elsewhere, by meeting escorts for example. 

 

A psychological release

Submission can be a way to access deep psychological release. For some men, submission allows them to confront and process feelings of inadequacy, shame, or guilt in a controlled environment. By experiencing a "loss" of power during sexual play, they may find catharsis or emotional relief.

For those who struggle with self-esteem or have a strong need to please others, submission can help them feel validated when their partner accepts their vulnerability and takes control of the situation.

 

Fulfilling fantasies and desires

As I wrote in a previous article of this blog, sexual fantasies are a natural and normal part of human sexuality. Many men have fantasies that involve submission, such as being tied up, restrained, or dominated by a partner. These fantasies may be rooted in a desire to experience something forbidden, exciting, or taboo.

Fantasies of submission may also involve role reversal, where men take on roles traditionally associated with femininity or passivity. For example, while taking part of a role play, they might fantasize about being controlled, disciplined, or objectified, which can create a sense of heightened sexual excitement.

 

Gender norms and masculinity

More and more men are drawn to submission as a way to challenge traditional gender roles and norms around masculinity. In a culture that often values men as dominant and assertive, the act of submission allows them to explore a different aspect of their personality, rejecting rigid expectations of what it means to be masculine.

By submitting, they may find comfort in redefining their masculinity and exploring their full range of emotions and desires, which can be affirming and sexually liberating.

 

Physical sensations and pleasure

For many, the physical sensations involved in submission, such as restraint, spanking, or sensory play, can be intensely pleasurable. Submission can enhance the body's sensitivity, amplifying physical sensations during sexual encounters.

Whether it involves soft or hard domination, this type of kinky play often involves sensory deprivation, teasing, or prolonged anticipation, which can heighten arousal and sexual pleasure. Men who enjoy passive submission (they are the submissive) are drawn to the physical intensity and the thrill of having someone else control the experience.

 

The desire to please

Other men derive immense satisfaction from pleasing their partner. For them, submission is a way to surrender control and focus entirely on their partner’s pleasure. The act of being submissive can fulfill their desire to cater to their partner’s needs and desires, enhancing the overall sexual experience.

This aspect of submission is deeply tied to feelings of servitude or devotion, where the submissive partner gains emotional and sexual fulfillment through the act of serving the dominant partner. This is often the type of clients a Dominatrix welcomes in her dungeon…

Like all consensual sexual preferences, sexual submission of men by women is a personal expression of desire, which is often necessary for the mental, psychological and physical balance of some men. When they have the opportunity to live that experience of submission with a woman who knows (and likes) how to sexually dominate a man, a complementary relationship is established, in consensual encounters that often need to be controlled so that it becomes neither addictive nor hurtful to either partner.

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

 

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