19 / 06 / 2026
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Kissing: Should you kiss as an escort?

 

Kissing. Stereotypes will tell you: “Prostitutes don’t kiss. Escorts, on the other hand, are different.” My years of experience in this industry have led me to the following conclusion: Although many escorts choose not to kiss their clients, clients will always prefer to see an escort who kisses. To kiss or not to kiss? This is the aspect of your work as an escort that will have the greatest impact on your earnings. In a previous article, I discussed the reasons why some escorts don’t kiss their clients. In this shorter article, I’ll try to objectively guide aspiring escorts through this very personal yet important decision: whether or not to kiss their clients.

 

Kissing your clients: You have four options

Most experienced escorts will tell you this: Only a small number of clients don’t want to kiss. And for those escorts who aren’t great kissers or for whom kissing remains a very intimate act that can’t be shared with just anyone; they leave many clients feeling very frustrated (especially when they don’t mention this important detail in their service description).

As an escort, you have four options when it comes to kissing your clients: Either you don’t kiss at all, or you kiss only on the lips (without tongue contact), or you offer French kissing to all your clients, or you take it on a case-by-case basis, letting things progress naturally depending on the mutual comfort that develops with your client.

If you choose not to kiss at all, be aware that you’ll need to adjust your financial expectations to reflect this reality, because for many Swiss clients, you won’t be their first choice.

If you opt for the second option, be clear in your service description and specify that you don’t kiss beyond lip contact. Clients will appreciate this honesty, and more of them will consider meeting you. Financially, you'll be better off than if you chose not to kiss at all.

If you’re willing to offer French kissing to all your clients, combined with a GFE service, you’ll significantly increase your chances of succeeding as an escort. However, make sure you don’t make empty promises. If this service appears on your profile, it means it’s available to all clients (with a few exceptions, of course). Be consistent and honest with clients, or they’ll never come back to see you.

Finally, if you choose to handle this on a case-by-case basis, as in option 1, I strongly suggest you mention this in your service description so as not to create false expectations and thus disappointment for the client. What men can’t stand about escorts is feeling like they’ve been tricked. And for you, as an independent escort, one of your main goals should be to ensure you maintain an impeccable reputation. Therefore, whether you decide to kiss your clients or not, you must communicate this clearly to avoid any misunderstandings.

 

Escort: Why do clients want to kiss you?

As an escort, adapting to clients is often a delicate task. Some have no trouble intuitively following your lead during a moment of shared intimacy, while others like to give instructions or have a very specific idea of how things should unfold when they visit a sex worker. And it’s precisely this category of clients who expect to kiss an escort. Some will want to make this interaction with you as romantic as possible. For some, kissing reinforces the illusion of genuine intimacy. Kissing you elevates you to a different level than that of a mere prostitute, who has a reputation for not kissing. And this distinction makes them feel better about themselves as clients. In many other cases, some clients will want to kiss you because, for them, it’s an integral part of a satisfying sexual experience.

And for those who are afraid of diseases, no, HIV isn’t transmitted by kissing another person (it’s crazy how many people don’t know that). So yes, some escorts (even if they have no objection to kissing their clients) will be afraid of catching herpes (if the client has it) or other types of germs transmitted through saliva. But do they realize that using public transportation, for example, exposes them to just as many bacteria as spending time with their clients? Studies show that frequently touched surfaces on public transportation contain seven times more bacteria than a toothbrush holder and 12,000 times more than a public e-bike…

 

Kissing: An important decision to be made, early in your escort career

Whether or not you kiss, it can seriously affect your business as an escort. Most clients who contact you will expect a French kiss, even if they don’t say so explicitly. A girl who kisses and provides excellent service will be popular (at least in Switzerland). These days, a woman who chooses not to kiss will really need to stand out in other ways to succeed as an escort.

Kissing seems to be the most important aspect for potential escort clients. Some clients are more looking for kissing and cuddling than just sex, and many clients who want sex also, want to kiss. It is therefore crucial to remember the following: Kissing is certainly the only physical act that undeniably has a major impact on your job as an escort.

I’m not trying to influence you in any way, but rather to present the situation as it is. Either you learn to live with the not-always-pleasant comments about your service and the fact that you don’t kiss (note that escorts who don’t allow reviews on their profiles are viewed with suspicion by more and more clients), or you make money as an escort and kissing is an integral part of your service.

Ultimately, the decision is yours. Keep in mind, however, that given the growing competition in this industry, the client will always find an alternative that better meets his expectations: If it’s not you, it’ll be someone else.

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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