08 / 06 / 2025
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Escort Girls: Is sexting with your client a good idea?

 

Sexting is the act of sending, receiving, or exchanging sexually explicit messages, images, or videos via digital devices such as smartphones, computers, or tablets—most commonly through text messages, messaging apps, or social media platforms.

With smartphones and private messaging apps, it’s easy and fast to communicate intimately—anytime, anywhere which makes of sexting a tool for people to explore desires, role-play, or express parts of their sexuality they may not share in person. For some, sexting strengthens emotional bonds and helps sustain attraction, especially when physical intimacy is limited. Sexting can offer a safe space for sexual expression which contribute to viewing sexting not as a taboo, but rather as a normal part of flirting and dating.

Escorts who are solicited by clients have certainly had to deal with sexting. In fact, many men (existing or potential clients) use sexting to try to get in touch with an escort for immediate gratification. But is sexting really a thing to do as an escort? Keep on reading...

 

What does sexting include?

Sexting contents are erotic or suggestive text messages (e.g., fantasies, flirtatious language), nude or semi-nude photos, often called “nudes”, sexual videos or voice notes or emojis or memes used to imply sexual intent. Although sexting can occur in romantic relationships or casual flings, when a man contacts and escort and start sexting, digital intimacy occurs between two strangers.  The escort may or may not let it happen but for the client, the goal is clear: let himself being driven by curiosity, desire, fantasy, or convenience. The real interest in seeing you as an Escort isn’t really there, even among clients you may have seen in the past.

 

Why men love sexting?

Sexting is often used by (new) couples—especially those in long-distance or online relationships—to maintain intimacy, arousal, and connection. Married or long-term partners may use sexting to rekindle desire, experiment safely, or communicate fantasies.

However, when an escort and a client (that she has seen before)/potential client (whom she never met) sexting, it is used as a form of sexual exploration (mainly for the man) before meeting in person or as a form of erotic communication that may or not, lead to an encounter.

When an escort agrees to sexting with a client (because generally, this initiative comes from the man), she often does so because she thinks it will trigger in him the desire to make an appointment and see her later on. So, for her sexting is seen as an opportunity to make money in the medium to long term time slot, although there's no guarantee that this will be the case. What she often doesn't understand is that the man's motivations for sexting are, in most cases, diametrically opposed to those perceived by an escort.

Because the libido of a man functions differently as the one of a woman, it is important for escort girls to know that sexting is usually an advantage for the client and a disadvantage for the escort.

Because sexting provides a quick rush of arousal or attention without the effort or vulnerability that a real-life relationship or meeting an escort requires, it's for a man, a form of digital flirting or stimulation that’s available anytime, anywhere and which does not cost him anything. Additionally, sexting allows him to access sex without fear of judgment, while remaining anonymous and offers a kind of liberation from personal expectations or social consequences.

For such a man, sexting with a stranger (in this case, YOU) satisfies a curiosity about sex and attraction because it gets new, unpredictable, and forbidden.

Sexting is loved by men as without prior emotional involvement it can feel safer. There’s no pressure to commit, no relationship expectations, and no need to share deeper aspects of one’s life. This makes it attractive for emotionally unavailable or guarded individuals.

Some of them seek sexting for affirmation of their desirability, especially if they’re feeling insecure, lonely, or bored —especially at night, during downtime, or after emotional events. Receiving sexual attention from a stranger can feel like a boost of confidence and self-esteem. Indeed, giving or receiving sexy compliments or photos can make a man feel desired, attractive, and empowered. Furthermore, because some men are afraid of rejection, intimacy, or relationship commitment, sexting with strangers offers a simulated experience of connection without real-world consequences or responsibilities.

 

Why should an Escort think twice before sexting with clients?

It has been demonstrated that sexting can strengthen the emotional and physical connection between partners. It also keeps desire and attraction alive when physical closeness isn't possible. Sexting can help partners express fantasies, desires, or boundaries that may be hard to share in person and it does builds anticipation and excitement.

Yet, when it comes to two persons who do not know each other, sexting may give the illusion of closeness, when in reality, emotional or relational depth is missing. This male craze for sexting should rather be perceived by the escort, as a waste of time. Why so? Keep reading…

 

Engaging into sexting with your clients: What’s the risk?

As an independent escort in Switzerland, you should bear in mind that time with a client whenever it is in the bedroom, outside of the bedroom, online or on the telephone is time that should be paid for. Working for yourself means that you are an independent worker, such as a freelancer consultant or therapist would be and therefore, you need to be paid for your time. You may be generous with the time when you are in company of your best clients, but those exceptions cannot be generalized nor repeated. If so, you will eventually end up having men no longer willing to pay to spend time with you because you’ve showed them once (or multiple times) that they could get what they are looking for without having to spend a penny for it. Behaving as such will deserve you and lower the value you have in the eye of that man. If this has occurred once with a client/potential client, either he will no longer want to pay what you are asking for and will want a significant discount, or he will refuse to see you in exchange of money as for him, you do not worth what you are asking for and you’ve proved it to him in the past.

Therefore, risking losing a client because you wanted to be nice and gave him a bit of attention for free is too risky for your job as an escort in Switzerland. In my opinion, it isn’t worth it. And this applies also to that client you are really into or start having feelings for: sexting doesn’t mean the same to him as that it means to you. And you will also notice that men who have no deep feelings with the girl they are texting with usually pull away after sexting due to emotional avoidance, misaligned intentions, shame, or the temporary nature of their interest.

Indeed, sexting often builds emotional and sexual tension, and for some men, especially early in a connection, that intensity can feel overwhelming. Once those high wears off (or once a fantasy is fulfilled), they may feel exposed, vulnerable, or unsure about what comes next. Another reason of being so distant after sexting is experiencing post-intimacy discomfort. This can be due to personal values, cultural taboos, religion, or even internalized shame around sex or emotional vulnerability. For emotionally unavailable men or for those who would love to meet escorts but haven’t made that leap yet, sexting may be an easy way to connect without real commitment. What you should also consider is that for many men, sexting might have been part of a broader pattern of flirting, and once someone else caught their attention, they shift focus without clear communication.

For most guys, sexting is a game. If you give it to them “for free”, they will take it, enjoy it and take some distances or even block you after you’ve satisfied their desires. Why? Because they may worry that after sexting, you're expecting something, such as them booking an appointment to meet you, for instance. If he's not ready or interested, the guy might pull away to avoid any pressure from you.

 

What other risks are associated to sexting?

Sexting also comes with real risks, particularly when privacy is not protected or when there is coercion or legal ambiguity.

As much as a client can have a bad conscient after masturbating and ejaculating on his sofa thanks to you (because you accepted engaging into sexting), you also can develop shame around it. You may feel regret, guilt, or disappointment after sexting with a guy you don’t know, and you are likely never going to meet. Moreover, don’t forget that sexting can also lead to emotional harm such as dick pictures or non-consensual sharing (revenge porn) can be traumatic and abusive to the person who is a victim of it.

Lastly, the privacy and security problems associated with sexting also raise ethical issue. Messages or images can be leaked, hacked, or shared without your consent, leading to public embarrassment or reputational damage. On top of that, always remember that when something is sent via a smartphone or published on the internet, it is nearly impossible to fully delete it…

 

Should you not be sexting at all as an escort?

Sexting or not sexting? The answer to that question is up to you.

Personally, I think that sexting can be a healthy, playful, and satisfying way to connect with someone in trusting and consensual relationships. So, with your husband, lover, long term boyfriend or partner, you could maybe consider sexting if it is something that excites you too. However, engaging in such activity with a stranger or someone you barely know is in my opinion, posing a threat to your image as an escort and exposing yourself to trouble.

A customer is trying sexting with you, and you don't feel like it? Tell him politely that you're not interested in sexting, but that if he wants to meet you, he can gladly make an appointment. If he ignores your words and insists, blocking his phone number is the only right thing to do...

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

 

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